This is a test of the birth platform that has been put before us today and we are the guinea pigs. Have you noticed in most movies, TV shows, artful depictions, or in your friends’ stories how you've been led to believe that birth is the most painful thing you will ever go through in your life? We've been set upon this path to believe that our bodies are not worthy, that they aren't a temple, that we shouldn't worship them for the amazing feat of creating and bringing forth a new life. Since Eve ate the apple we have all been condemned to suffer the consequences of that sin and therefore birth will be unbearable at best. Why are we painfully condemned while bringing forth life?
This also happens to be a great disservice to our daughters and sons when we speak about birth in a way that makes it scary. It's the same disservice our mothers did for us, setting the scene in a sterile hospital where everything seems to be done precisely and with a very specific purpose in mind. A lot of our mothers grew up not understanding their own bodies - lacking direction from their keepers (Mothers, grandmothers, aunts). We had all been led astray from physiological birth and learned not to question the hospital practices that are a “one size fits all” version, but who does that size fit? I find it hard to believe that my body will do as expected by medical professionals and perform the same in birth as my neighbors, friends, or even other woman that I am geographically separated from. How can we even compare when my hips are different than theirs, my genes are distinct, my level of pain is my own, and my background varies? Birth is not accomplished in a factory and plainly speaking we are not all from the same mold!
I implore you to stand up against the demonizing of birth and realize that your body is amazing! You will find an ideal way to work through contractions. When you doubt yourself, realize you have surround yourself with positivity and others who know your capability. You yourself know your limits, and know when to push them- for a new mother, a mother who has yet to have a vaginal birth, or a mother with 5 kids this can be uncharted territory and as such you should get yourself a map. Find others who support your birth choices, others who had similar circumstances as your own and hold the same truths in life. Get a fabulous Doula!!!! (Of course I would say that! duh!) Most of all - Believe in yourself! You know what’s right for you, if that’s praying, chanting, positive affirmations, singing, running- do it- and prepare for a life changing experience!
*Did you know if there isn’t a doula near you Two Hands Birth offers Virtual Doula Services?! Let us help you prepare and map out the birth you are hoping to have.
Brandi has a passion for everything birth and loves to share her personal birth stories with other mommas. The births of her own two children solidified the desire to empower families everywhere to believe in themselves to have the best birth for them. You can read more about Brandi here.